"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires." James 1:19-20
Preaching in any langage of the world, I can lift this book and say "this is the Word of God". Now this book is written by Jews. There is not one line here that is written by anyone else than by a Jew. But if you wish to say in Hebrew "this is the word of God" you can't, because Hebrews don't have the word "word".
Word...what is word? We throw words around the whole week. To the right and to our left. And so much of these words are babbling. The Jews instead of words say "dabar" and "dabar" means even in modern Hebrew which is spoken in Israel "a real thing...I give you this real thing". After hearing somebody from the people of God speaking to you. If he has spoken to you five minutes, after this you are richer than you were before. He has given you something which you did not have before.
And as the word "the word" does not exist, so also the word "to speak" does not exist. Instead of "to speak" they say "zedabair"..."to give a real thing". They don't have the word "to say". Instead of "to say" they say "desapair" and desapair means "to give a jewel". As long as someone from the people of God opens his mouth, he is meant to give a jewel. If you have no jewel to give (you don't have a jewel always with you) you have a very easy solution, keep your mouth shut. Open it only when you have a jewel to give.
If this rule would be respected there would be no quarrels in the family, there would be no divorces, no split between children and parents, there would be no nothing....no divisions within churches, no conflicts, no nothing. If everybody would speak only when he has a jewel to give. "To say" in Hebrew means "to give a jewel".
And they have a third word, which is "leomair" and "leomair" means to lift somebody, to elevate somebody to the highest branch of a tree. When I speak... when I say something, I must elevate you, you should be in a higher sphere than you had been before.
"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." Ephesians 4:29